Though many believe the temptation of the serpent and
resulting failure of Adam and Eve in Genesis 3 to be the first crisis recorded
in all of the Scripture, there is one that proceeds even this. It involves man’s
loneliness prior to the creation of woman. Though the Garden of Eden on day 6
was a perfect place, it was not yet complete until man met woman for the first
time and entered into a special relationship. In Genesis 2:18-25, we read about
how this episode of “boy meets girl” unfolds by means of four actions God takes
on man’s behalf.
God Recognizes a
Need-2:18-20
Everything God created up to this point in the Genesis
account has been identified as either “good” or “very good” by Him. However,
here, in verse 18, God describes something as “not good” –“Then the Lord God
said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone’” (2:18a). Man needed a
companion. The skies had the celestial bodies and the birds, the sea had the
fish, the land had the animals and mankind; however, mankind was not yet
complete in and of itself. While everything else had what it needed to serve
its function, mankind was missing something integral to his.
It is important to acknowledge that God is the one who makes
this evaluation of the human condition. This demonstrates that God understands
what is good for man better and before even he does concerning his own
condition.
However, what is so bad about being alone? As man is made in
God’s image, he was created to be in relationship (inasmuch as God exists in
relationship with himself and is therefore a relational being). Therefore, for
mankind to maximize his creative potential, not only is he to have a
relationship with his Creator, but he is also design for relationship with
other co-equal members of the creative order. As the animals were not equal to
mankind in either form, dominion, personality, intellect, or constitution,
mankind was missing a necessary ingredient required to make him whole—someone to
relate to on a personal level. “Isolation is not the divine norm for human
beings; community is the creation of God” (Matthews, 213).
Another reason that mankind was incomplete by himself involves the calling upon him to “be fruitful and multiply” and
by proxy “fill the earth and subdue it…” (1:28ff). This, no matter how hard
Adam may have tried, could not be executed on his own.
Thankfully, God does not just identify this incompletion, He
seeks to rectify this lack and provide mankind with what He calls a “helper”—“I
will make him a helper suitable for him’…” (2:18b). Before
one misinterprets the term “helper” here to mean something less than what Adam
was, consider this: God himself is called a “helper” often in the Psalms (Pss.
20:2-3; 12:1-2; 124:8). Moses even speaks of God as his “helper” (Ex. 18:4).
Therefore, though “helper” is intended to convey a sense of support and aid, it
is NOT to connote inferiority to Adam.
That this is the case is supported by the phrase “suitable
for him” (2:18b). This indicates correspondence between man and woman and
equality between the two in terms of their constitution. In other words, woman
is just as human as man is (made in the image of God as a radically unity of
spirit and body with all of the blessings and responsibilities appertaining thereunto).
With these considerations in mind, it is incumbent on the
responsible reader of this text to conclude that “there is no sense derived
from the word [helper] linguistically or from the context of the garden
narrative that the woman is a lesser person because of her role…In the case of
the biblical model, the ‘helper’ is an indispensable ‘partner’ required to
achieve the divine commission” (Matthews 214).
Though God recognized this need for mankind in the
beginning, Adam fails to do so until sometime later. Before woman was created “Out
of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of
the sky, and brought them to the man to see what He would call them, and
whatever the man called a living creature, that was its name” (2:19). This
description is used by Moses to convey two things. First, it contrasts the
creation of all of the creatures in this world with the unique creation of
woman. Though all of the beasts were formed “out of the ground” and even Adam
was “formed…of dust from the ground” (see 2:7), woman is created in a very
different way.
Second, that Adam named all of the creatures is one
illustration of his dominion /rule over them as a superior created being (inasmuch
as he alone is made in the image of God)—“the man gave names to all the cattle,
and to the birds of the sky, and to every beast of the field…” (2:20a). To this
day, in many situations, naming something gives the “namer” authority over that
which is named. This is exactly what is being depicted here. Adam’s naming of
the animals suggests that he was their manager.
However, eventually on that first busy day of Adam’s
existence, in the midst of the parade of animals that were trotted out in front
of him, he eventually realized “there was not found a helper suitable for him…”
(2:20b). Here, Adam catches up to where God already was in understanding that
for him to really do his job and subdue the earth as instructed, he required help
of the most important kind. Due to her
unique beginning and distinction as human, woman “is not of the order of the animals
over whom the man is to dominate; she will share in the responsibility of
dominating the creative order” (Matthews 215-16). However, for the time being,
like a dancer without a partner, Adam stood there unable to fulfill God’s
calling.
God Fashions a Woman-2:21-22
“So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man,
and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that
place,…” (2:21). Woman is created as a result of a surgical act of God. As in
any surgery, the one operated on is put to sleep—here called a “deep sleep.”
Once asleep, God alone goes about His work in creating the woman. His tool is a
rib taken from Adam’s side. This demonstrates that she was of the same
substance as the man and underscores the unity of the human family—having only
one source.
“The Lord God
fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her
to the man…” (2:22). Much care and craftsmanship was used to form the first
woman. “Fashioned” depicts God here as a builder who constructs the woman from
the raw resource derived from the man. The word used here is a frequent term
for building edifices, but it occurs only once in early Genesis—here. As with “formed”
in the description of Adam’s creation earlier (2:7), the same kind of care and
attention is given to the creation of woman.
The significance of God using the “rib” to fashion woman pertains
to the man and woman’s unique fit for one another as companions sexually and
socially (as they are made of the same thing—though very much different).
Following this special creative act, God “brought her to the
man.” This suggests that woman was a gift. She is both Adam’s first gift and
greatest gift—better than the stars, sea, trees, fruit, animals, rivers, etc. With
the advent of the woman the garden became a true paradise as it was at that
point that God’s creation became complete.
God Introduces Woman
to Man-2:23
Upon receiving this gift, Adam, I imagine very enthusiastically
exclaims, “”this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh…”(2:23). Immediately,
Adam is able to recognize that this woman, unlike all of the other creatures,
was like him and therefore capable of relating to him personally, intimately,
etc. and, by proxy, capable of helping humanity reach its fullest potential and
satisfy the calling of God. The first ever community was created in this first
ever episode of boy meets girl.
Upon meeting her, Adam names her, “’she shall be called
Woman, because she was taken out of Man’…”(2:23b). This is an act of leadership
and authority, but not of the same kind as Adam demonstrated over the animals,
for, the woman is given a name that is a variation of Adam’s own—“woman.”
Adam explains the meaning of her name in the last clause of
verse 23—“because she was taken out of man” again highlighting her source.
However, commentators have also noted the wordplay between adam (“man”) and
adama (“ground”) at 2:7 and 3:19 and ish (“man”) and isha (“woman”). The ending
“-a” indicates feminine gender in Hebrew. However, the “–a” ending also on
occasion indicates direction—specifically “to” or “toward” (Jobling, Meier). In
the case of adam—adama, “man” returns to the “ground” during the lifespan. In
the case of ish—isha, “man” moves toward the “woman” in the context of marriage when he is “united
to his wife” and they “become one flesh” (Matthews, 219). This conclusion is
supported by the final action God takes in this passage.
God Constructs an
Institution-2:24-25
In God’s final creative act of chapter 2, He constructs a
sacred institution—marriage—“For this reason a man shall leave his father and
his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh” (2:24).
Other translations render this verse “a man shall forsake his father and his
mother and cling to his wife.” This suggests that within the context and
process of marriage, one loyalty is severed while another one commences (Hamilton,
181). That the man is the leaver and cleaver again suggests a leadership role
as, at least as this verse is portrayed, he is depicted as making the initial
sacrifice of separation.
Not only that but “be joined to” or “cling” conveys a covenantal
relationship shared between the husband and wife. Monogamy is clearly intended
as “leave” and “cling” are terms commonly used in the context of covenant,
indicating either covenant breach or fidelity (see Deut. 10:20; 11:22; 13:18; 28:20; 30:20; Josh. 23;8 Hos. 4:10). In other
words, the emphatic terms demonstrate that the bond of marriage is especially powerful
and significant—not a happenstance contract thrown together and easily ripped
to shreds.
Once committed to each other, the two “become one flesh” (2:24).
In other words, the husband and wife do not leave their parents to an isolated
or independent existence, but to a dependency and responsibility toward one
another. “’One flesh’” echoes the language of v. 23, which speaks of the woman’s
source in the man; here it depicts the consequence of their bonding, which
results in one new person” (Matthews, 223). As I often say in the marriage
ceremonies that I conduct—“no longer are you a man or a woman, you are a
husband and a wife. This means that your very identity as husband is wrapped up
in your relationship to her as your wife and yours as a wife in your husband.” Two
becoming one is illustrated in human sexuality in which two individuals form
one expression of love and union. Though physical intimacy does not exhaust all
that marriage is, it is an illustration of this point.
The institution created in the context of the perfect garden
was a wondrous thing to behold. This much is conveyed in the next verse—“and
the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed” (2:25). The original
audience associated nakedness with guilt or shame. However, because there was
no sin in the world, even Adam and Eve’s bare bodies were nothing to blush at; they
were a beautiful expression of the freedom and openness afforded them in the
perfection of Paradise and in the context of their marriage.
So What?
In this passage, the first ever crisis is answered in the
most brilliant way. Adam’s need for a companion and helper to aide in achieving
his God-given calling is met with the most uniquely made creature yet—woman! In
so doing, God creates a community in which mankind is able to thrive and an
institution by which mankind is able to procreate and subdue the earth! In
addition to all of the principles concerning marriage and unity that this
passage obviously endorses, something even more fundamental is being
communicated here. When God comes through, He does so in abundant ways! Here, in
the midst of Man’s loneliness, He gives mankind a helpmate and establishes an
entire program for others to follow in which the human race can enjoy the very
same kind of relationship that Adam and Eve shared here. This passage also
serves to highlight mankind’s need for relationship. Whether God allows you to
seek relationship in the context of marriage or in a community of believers,
recognize that it is not good for men or women to be alone. They are designed
to relate to one another and, together, relate to God.